People come into your life for: a reason, a season, or a lifetime. The sad part is learning who is the lesson, who is a passer by, and who is in it with you for the long haul. I’ve said goodbye to a few friendships in my life, and some easier than others, but even if you’re happy about it, or know that its for the best, you always seem to feel a little empty afterwards. At least I do.
Like all of us, I’ve said things I probably shouldn’t have said, or done things I probably shouldn’t have done. That’s what life is for- making mistakes. Learning from your mistakes, and taking the ones who matter along with you on this crazy journey called life. It’s also about learning from other people’s mistakes, and words, and actions… As I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized who my true friends are. They’re the people who stick by you through thick and thin, and through your mistakes. Nobody is perfect, and it’s learning somebody’s imperfections that really test how committed you are to them or them to you. You don’t have to agree with everything somebody says or does to love them or have compassion. Keep the ones who are honest with you close. The ones who respect you and your friendship enough to tell you if you’re doing something that is upsetting them. Who communicate with you. Who tell you when you’re wrong, and also tell you when you’re right. I’ve found that those are the ones who matter the most.
You can never have too many people in your life that love you. It doesn’t matter if you love Hillary and your best friend loves Trump (lol I had to use this example). If the Trump lover is the one who will pick you up in the middle of night when you’re crying and lost, hold on tight and never let that person go, regardless of your differences. Those are the friendships worth keeping. BUT….If a friendship ends for whatever reason, you have room for a new one to bloom. Like I said, you can never have too many people in your life that love you. Look back on your memories with the people that were lessons, or seasons. Smile, and move on, and share the best and worst parts of yourself with somebody who appreciates all of it. The good, bad, and ugly.
” The truth is that the more intimately you know someone, the more clearly you see their flaws. That’s just the way it is. This is why marriages fail, why children are abandoned, and why friendships don’t last. You might think you love someone until you see the way they act when they’re out of money, or under pressure, or hungry. Love is something different. Love is choosing to serve someone and be with someone in spite of their filthy heart. Love is patient and kind, love is deliberate. Love is hard. Love is pain and sacrifice, it’s seeing the darkness in another person, and defying the impulse to jump ship.”
Every word of that quote could not be more true. I’ve said goodbye to people who I swore would be bridesmaids at my wedding someday. I believe that everything happens for a reason. People will float in and out of your world forever. It’s about learning who to hold on to, and who to let float on bye.